The Chinese Woman and Her Value

Summary

• When a Chinese woman is married off, she may return home once a year or never.
• In the ancient time, a woman's value can determine by her purity and virginity, which she will protect even if it cost her life.
• In the workplace, you should never show disrespect and ignore the women when they are talking.
• After the greeting handshakes, you should avoid make a physical contact with the woman. This will protect her from rumors that can damage her value.
• In personal life, the Chinese woman will only date men that she believe she have a future with.
• In a lifetime, the majority of women are only expected to have two to three boyfriends.

How much do you worth?

How do you measure a value of a person? Many people said that you can't, however, I would argue that you can. All you have to do is take some pictures of yourself, put it on eBay, and voila ( I wonder how much I'm worth? Hehe).

One thing for sure, it does not matter what generation you live in the woman are always underrated, and this especially hold true with the Chinese woman.

Throughout this site, I already talk about what type of treatments that Chinese woman have to endure already, so I will repeat that on this article. This article will concentrate on two points. First, explain why the woman are consider as second rate to man.

Second, with the limit in value, I will explain what type of action the woman will take to protect her value, and how we can apply it today when doing business will the woman in China.

The Chinese have a saying, "raise a daughter like throw bowl of water out the door" or "raising a pig is more benefit than raise the daughter." The reason for these proverbs is because once the daughter leave the family or marries off to the in-law; she will leave for good. Sometimes, the time frame for her to return to see her family after married is from once a year to never.

So, in all the Chinese movies that you may have see, when the parents are crying during the wedding day is not just out of joy, but sometimes out of saddest as well. The reason is maybe that is last time the parents will see their daughter.

When marry off, the daughter's responsibility is with her husband not with the family. To the Chinese people during ancient time, there is no benefit to raising a daughter. Once the girl grows up, she is gone; hence, why the proverbs the way it is.

The value of a Chinese woman can also be measure by her virginity. If a woman lost her purity before marriage, she will be rejected not only from her family but the society as a whole. In turn, the woman is very careful how she cares about herself, and sometime to the extreme.

Story's time...

Once, there was a famous poet in the Hans Dynasty returning home after five long years of serving the emperor. As, he walked onto the bridge, there was a woman walking from the other side toward him.

She was describing as a gorgeous young girl just about turn twenty, with an oval face of a golden ratio of 1.61803399 (I think I have to too much imagination).

Anyhow, there was a slight shower in the afternoon, which in turn makes the bridge a bit slippery. As they met each other in the middle of the bridge, her feet slipped, and when she was about to fall down the poet reaches out to help her. He was able to catch her in time. However, accidently he ripped a part of her hand sleeve off, which revealed the inside of her arm.

After said thank you, the girl turned around and walks away and so does the poet. After walking a couple of steps, he heard a scream. As he turned around, he saw the girl jumped down the river and committed suicide. He realized that when he tried help, the poet accidently has erased her value.

After returning home, the poet created a famous poem for this memorable event.

That is how the Chinese woman take care of herself in the ancient time. You may ask, "That was then, what about now?"

Superwoman...

After the Communists come in, they have given the women more power, and consider them as an important role in China. Mao Zedong once said "The women will hold the other half of the sky." That is an ideal, which in theory it works.

Today, the Chinese woman have more power in the workplace and in society. As I mention before, when you are doing business in China, you should not ignore the women's voice in the workplace. However, the woman is still very traditional and also cares very much about her value.

When doing a business in China, you should limit the physical contact with the women. Many experts (my international friends) said that the only physical contact you are able to make is the handshake, and none after that. This will show your respect as well as protecting her from any rumor that may ruin her value in the future.

This is very different from the West; the lady are more relax and friendly. For example, I have a Columbian friend, she always greet me by a kiss on a cheek, however, don't do that in China.

For personal life, majority of the Chinese woman will only start a relationship with the men that they know there is a future. Rarely, Chinese couples ever break up. The woman believes that she will marry her first boyfriend or the first lover. In a lifetime, a woman probably has about two or three boyfriends at the most.

Thank you for stopping by, hope you enjoy reading as much as I'm writing it. You should get ready Chinese New Year is about to start. From where I am and where wherever you are, good night and good luck everybody.

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